An anniversary gift: write the story of the two of you
A big anniversary is one of the few occasions where the book has an obvious shape already: how you met, what happened, what you built. It also has two authors, which is the interesting part — because the two of you will remember it differently, and that disagreement is the best material in the book.
Four things worth knowing before you ask
Two people who were there remember it differently, and the difference is the best material in the book.
- Record them separately first. Together, one of them becomes the narrator and the other becomes the audience.
- Ask each of them the same questions, and keep both answers even where they contradict.
- Then record them together, and ask about something they disagree on. That conversation is usually the one the family wants.
- Ask what they thought of each other before they liked each other.
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Why this one lands
Most couples have a version of the story they tell at parties. It is about four minutes long and it has been smoothed by thirty years of retelling.
Underneath it is everything the four-minute version leaves out: what you actually thought of each other, the year it nearly did not work, what you were both frightened of. That is the book, and nobody else can write it.
Why not a notebook
The beautiful notebook is the standard gift here and it nearly always ends in a drawer — not because it is a bad object, but because what stands between someone and their book is not a lack of paper. It is not knowing where to start, not believing anyone would want to read it, and having no structure to follow.
A gift that supplies those three things gets used. One that supplies stationery adds a small, gentle weight of obligation to a pile that already exists.
What to do first
Record the two of you telling it together, and do not correct each other. Let the contradictions stand — he says it was raining, it was not raining is the most alive thing on the page.
One hour, both of you, one recorder. That is the whole first step, and for many couples it becomes the anniversary present in itself.
A note on doing this well
If one of you wants to do this and the other does not, do not push. Record your own version, keep it, and leave the door open. Books like this go wrong when they become an obligation for the reluctant half.
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Email me my free family history linkQuestions people ask
- Should we write it together or separately?
- Record together — the disagreements are the best material. Write separately if you can, in alternating sections, because two voices on the page is more interesting than one agreed account.
- Does the gift expire?
- No. The welcome credits never expire and there is no subscription to cancel — which is deliberate, because a gift with a clock on it becomes a source of guilt rather than a present.
- Do they need to be good with computers?
- No. They can talk rather than type, on a phone, and someone else can do the uploading. Plenty of family books are made by one person recording and another assembling.
- Can I help them with it?
- Yes, and for family stories that is usually how it works — one person interviews, another types or uploads, and the book belongs to everyone.
- What if they never use it?
- Start with the free question sets and one recorded afternoon. Even if no book follows, the recording is the thing families are most glad to have.